Man this guy is a piece of work. It is amazing what levels addiction can make some people sink. I guess when you drink a fifth of liquor a day your brain just ceases to function in reality. wracking up 20,000 dollars in credit card debt every 2 years on a $92,000 salary, all for a lil booze. If i made 92g for 5 years i could damn near retire. So this schmuck come home one evening in june and just starts a fight with my whole entire family.... by arguing with my sister in front of myself and our parents, and all in the middle of a family business. anyhow that night only got worse, and he ended up with a domestic violence injunction. divorce is coming, and it has been ugly with a capitol U. This guy poisons his children everytime he sees them, filling them with horrible made up lies about my sister, our parents, my wife, myself, and our friends and family. My grampa said "in the old days we woulda took him out to the middle of nowhere whipped his ass and left him for the coyotes and buzzards". Oh how sometimes i long for the old days. I tried to tell my sister 12 years ago....that you get married then get pregnant. Seems to me most of this country has done the exact opposite, and thats why divorce rates are so high. What bothers me the most is how it effects my 3 neices and 1 nephew. Any input on how to deal with a drunken crazy person would be great. not that i have to deal with him ever again.
I am no expert but my first thought would be try to get some help for kin..it is the hardest way for the innocent ones involved but he is the father of your family members...they need him to be well.My bro was the worst alchoholic I ever met and not just alcohol there was lots more. He now is very ill, broke and lives with family but has been sober for a time now. Offer the help and he might just take it if hes at the bottom. Will he admit his probs?
Sucks i feel you. My x brother is a serious pot heat. (I would never thought anyone can be addicted to pot) but yes he is. Lost me as a brother to it cause he would never come over unless he could smoke at my house or get high before he came. If he chose to get high before he came he would be so high, he would cancel or just come over and be a total stupid idiot.
I dont look down on people who smoke weed i look down on people who complain there gas tank is on E but the Weed pipe is always Full.
A good lawyer, an order of protection barring him from anyone in your family including his kids, divorce. then Al ANON for all. Don't think anything like an intervention is gonna save him. only HE may do that & it's doubtful imo. It's possible and others have done it, but the odds are against it and in the mean time you need to protect the others. Sorry for your situation. as said He's gotta hit rock bottom first, and taking his family away is one of the quickest ways to reach it.
i am afraid there is no help for him. over the years we have tried to get him to moderate. liquor is not his only problem, just the worst. he has treated my sister and her children terribly for years as we have tried to intervene and get him to live a family lifestyle. we have reached out to his parents and brothers. my parents have done as much for this man as they have for me, and he is an ungrateful, arrogant moron. my nieces and nephew need to have limited exposure to him, and his vegetarian, liberal, drunken craziness. he is an entitled idiot. i dont have children and am happy to be a good influence on my sisters children. if it wasnt for myself, and my parents, the kids would be in real trouble, as 4 is a little much for a single mom to handle. luckily i live 200ft away and can spend a lot of time trying to instill good values and ethics in them. the divorce is already in the works, by his own action, and maybe when he realizes he is screwed he will make a change and realize the err of his ways. if not he will be dead before he is 50, and he is 42 now.
